I had an idea… not gonna lie, not super pleased with how it turned out, think I kinda messed it up during the coloring phase and probably should’ve left it black and white but ah well 🤷 I figured I might as well post it anyways in case anyone has any advice on how I could improve it
I trained to be Mom’s labor coach. I had been through the classes with her and Dad for the first birth. I would have to be Dad this time. Mom and I actually got pretty close as a result. #doula #suicide #trauma #cptsd #writer #sociology
ADHD, Autistic, & other nd folks who are easily overwhelmed, and any physically disabled folks who can stand but not for very long,
If you cook for yourself/your household, how do you do it?
I’m the only one in my house who cooks, and am the full time caregiver to both my parents, whom I live above with a second person/roommate. And I have this issue with most chores, where they’re very difficult for me, because they’re boring or overwhelming.
I can reframe “cleaning” a room into “redecorating” or “reorganizing” it, which engages the dopamine production in my brain way easier and helps with step reduction in tasks, but I can’t gameify or reframe cooking into something more appealing, it seems.
For me, what I already do, is do all my prep sitting at my kitchen table or when I have more energy and freeze things (vegetables and meat, mostly). I can’t only have convenience foods eg. Chicken & fries & microwave meals due to freezer space and nutrition requirements and I already receive a shipment of 7 days of freezer meals for one of my parents every Thursday which takes up ¼th of the sodding freezer, so most of my meals must be made from scratch from quick perishables, preserves & dry foods. I can’t sit at my cooktop, so I have to stand for a long time, which reduces my available energy for the day depending how long I have to stand and cook for. Which as you can imagine is quite bad.
Additionally, not as important, but my roommate is a ‘picky eater’ (I believe she has ARFID but I digress) so I do have to make certain foods so she can eat, too, and sometimes we can compromise but it’s hard, which means either all four of us have to eat what she’s going to eat, or I’m making two separate meals/variation of a meal, which of course takes more time and energy and requires communication and cooperation.
Unfortunately, because of that, I’ve been wasting a lot of food, because I can’t remember or don’t know what she won’t eat in some instances, and even sometimes I’ll cook something I know she likes and have seen her eat, but she’ll turn her nose up at it. Which makes me want to cook a lot less. Love her, can’t kick her out, so it is something I gotta work with, which isn’t a problem, it just doesn’t have the easiest solution.
So yeah um. Help, maybe. Please.
The Permanent Underclass Has Good GMAT Scores
Before you open Claude Code, before you plumb, ask yourself:
When do I reach flow state?
What have I avoided, that I love, because I think it’s “silly” or “beneath me”?
These are questions worth sitting with before you build anything, 1) because AI will lower the barrier to whatever you build next, and 2) what makes you you is what AI can never replicate. But only you can decide if it’s worth building to you. We wrote about learning how to listen to that answer.
And then go swimming once in a while. No, not in high-density, fast-moving waters. Take one day away, sans optimization, and honor the opinions of your nervous system. My brain needs that kind of inference time, and I suspect yours does, too.
Can’t stop thinking of Graham Weaver’s 4 habits that yield asymmetric returns.
• Write down your goals: (0:07) This forces clarity and aligns your subconscious, calendar, and resources toward what matters.
• Prioritize sleep: (0:37) Essential for physical health, decision-making, and emotional resilience. As the video notes, “fatigue makes cowards of us all” (1:10).
• Eliminate distractions: (1:16) Turning off phones and Wi-Fi during deep work drastically improves productivity and creativity.
• Curate your environment: (1:45) You become the people you spend time with. Surround yourself with positive influencers, including through your parasocial relationships (podcasts/social media) (2:07).
my phone is in another room and I’ve carefully curated my media diet
Tell me, where are those other guys right now? Are they there with you? Did your friend invite them, or you? Eeeeexactly.
Its like I said. There is no secret ingredient, there’s no competition going on, and I would bet money that your friend isn’t comparing you to other guys at all. He only sees you as you, for you, and it really is that simple.
Besides, as a guy myself, lemme tell you a secret… guys are pathetic. Like, seriously pathetic.
That shredded bodybuilder you saw the other day? He’s been abusing PEDs since his teens and won’t live far past 30
That 22 year old you know who owns a huge house and is raising three kids with his beautiful wife? He’s in crippling debt, and they’re fighting over it
That popular dude who everyone seems to love? His friends make passes at his girlfriend and talk shit about him behind his back
That guy you see around who constantly brags about how much money he makes? Its all just credit cards. His job barely pays half of what comments on social media told him it would.
That guy who just can’t shut up with his toxic positivity? He struggles mentally every single day.
And then there’s you. You’re not perfect. You’re not an athlete. You’re not a g-list celebrity. You’re just you. And your friend really really likes that, hence why he invited you, and not the clowns I listed above. So if you’re not gonna listen to me, at least listen to the people who go out of their way to make time for you. Because they wouldn’t do that if you weren’t worth it.
And if you’re gonna start exercising, do it for you. Do it to enjoy it. Do it so you can live a long, healthy life, not to impress other people.
Good luck :)
I’ve been in love with my best friend for 4 years or more now, I confessed, we’ve had talks about being together but I’m not sure it’ll ever happen. I want her more than anything in the world. I love her more than anything I’ve ever known. She’s all I care about. But I’m scared it’ll never happen. What should I do?
if your blog is sfw or you just don’t want to have nsfw blogs following you, its perfectly fine to have kink/nsfw blogs as a dni. however, putting specific “bad” kinks, like “ageplay/noncon/petplay supporters dni” is not advised.
So I’ve been thinking about going to school to become a licensed massage therapist
Is this a bad idea?😅does anyone know anything or have any tips?😭🙏
NOW IS THE TIME TO FOCUS ON THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR YOURSELF. HOW DO YOU TREAT YOURSELF? DO YOU FORGIVE YOURSELF, OR DO YOU CARRY AROUND GUILT LIKE IT’S PART OF YOU? I’M GETTING THE ENERGY OF YOU HAVING A HARDER TIME BEING KIND TO YOURSELF THAN YOU ARE TO OTHERS. YOU HAVE TO RAISE YOUR STANDARDS BECAUSE OTHERWISE YOU’RE GOING TO KEEP CHOOSING FRIENDS AND LOVERS WHO TREAT YOU POORLY.
DEALING WITH DEMORALIZATION
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[Everyday I feel so exhausted and sick of having to put on a mask to get through the day, being at work and interacting with people even minimally drains every single ounce of energy from me. <…> But I don’t know if I can actually change it at this point or be able to have the kind of life I want to have. <…> It frustrates me that you can’t be honest about it and can’t say anything about the world being hell and nature being hell and PEOPLE being hell without people getting defensive and acting like you’re the crazy one. They expect you to look at all of the selfish, manipulative assholes of the world and to “love everyone,” see the good in them and forgive them even though they don’t deserve it, to look at all their filth and call it love.]
I think expressing emotions, even anger and frustration is important. You should never try to force yourself to feel a certain way if it’s not genuine. I was actually angry for some time, and festered in it. It was really important on my journey of self improvement. Life can be disappointing, and initially recognizing the filth presented to us, can be demoralizing.
Starting small could potentially help you. I dove in and wanted to completely change my life overnight. This obviously didn’t happen, and made it seem like an impossible task. You have to give yourself grace and practice patience. You’ve built up a lifetime of thoughts and experiences, that is going to take time to change. I started by doing one positive thing for myself each day. It sounds cliche and obvious, but if you look around, even little things slip past us. I also encourage you to get to the bottom of your emotions, especially frustration.
You shouldn’t have to pretend. Although I’m able to think positively about my own life, I know that this world is a terrible place. I agree that not bringing another person here is the “purpose” for those of us with this mindset. I find great joy in that, knowing that I’m smart enough to see through the illusion and make a meaningful choice not to contribute because of it. Don’t let the mass delusion of faux positivity get to you, those people know what they’re saying is bullshit deep down. The ability to be honest with yourself and acknowledge reality is a gift, and at the very least will help keep yourself safe.
I encourage you to take your time. Which you have plenty of. Don’t let the idea that you’ve wasted too much of it stop you. I sat with my negative feelings for awhile before coming out on the other side. I was able to comfort myself with the fact that I was smart enough to wake up eventually. Some people never do, and that’s what motivated me the most. I see others everyday who are almost at the end of their lives, and still soaking up filth.
You’re already extremely self aware and shouldn’t waste that. You need to spend more time with yourself, and find ways to grow self esteem. The relationship you have with yourself will influence how you move through the world. I sincerely mean it when I say that your words resonated with me, and I can tell how intelligent you are. You have a perceptive mind, many don’t get that, you shouldn’t let it go to waste. Maybe even finding a medium in which you can express yourself, even the less positive aspects, can help you. Writing has been therapeutic for me for that reason. Journaling as well, sharing your insights, even if just for yourself.
Chat how do you guys deal with intense paranoia and anxiety
I have been spent all last week thinking nearly all my friends hate/are mad at me and I just don’t know how to fix it
This isn’t the first time i’ve had mental states like this and I don’t want to ask them because I don’t want to annoy them with it, especially since one of my friends is dealing with her grandfather’s death right now
who up chatting with they random roblox friend from 2024 on roblox and getting advice from them at 2:22 am
In month three you’ll start by taking on toxic positivity in the form of Love Bombing in Week 9. In week 10, you’ll pick up two more DBT tools GIVE and FAST. In week 11, you’ll focus on emotional regulation. #emotionalregulation #lovebombing #toxicpositivity
I had a blast chatting with Mr. Amish-ish. He was kind, and helpful, and naughty, but respectfully naughty. I got the distinct impression that this particular friend really loved women- ALL women. It was pretty adorable. #polygamy #survivor #writer
Spoon Theory created by Christine Miserandino originated as a way of explaining how we each have a certain supply of energy, and really of ourselves, to deal with things in a day. #survivor #chronicillness #spoons #selfhelp
They kept me in the lobby, as they made calls about K, and came back to ask me questions a number of times. They never mentioned anything about charging me. I didn’t ask. #wyoming #newstart #stranded #survivor #alone
hot take as an atheist
I’ve never felt drawn to religion in the slightest, even though my parents (technically, my mom doesn’t fully believe in it) are Catholic. I never was involved with a church or even did prayer with others, but up until I was around 10 years old I considered myself Christian. Only because I hadn’t thought about it. Once I actually started being conscious and aware of what I was “following”, I stopped. And honestly, I hate seeing people (especially Mormons) devote their entire life to this god only for there to be nothing at the end (in my opinion). Some would call it disrespectful, but it’s only because I care. It seems to me that they’re wasting all this fun they could have for absolutely nothing in return. Obviously, that’s upsetting. I can’t force anyone to stop believing, nor do I want to if it truly brings you joy, but please just stop and consider. Could save you YEARS of emptiness and doubt.
