so, to start — my ex best friend is a shitty person. well, in my opinion at least.
for background, this chick (we’ll call her swap — it’ll make sense soon,) because my best friend after she started dating my cousin (switch — you’ll also see why it makes sense soon.)
they got together and i really liked her at first, i’d just moved out and she and i met at a party for the first time that i was hosting, and i had been preemptively warned she bad with music and crowds, so i showed her my room and said that she can go in there if she felt too much. (they left early — she never used the room.)
she, for years, has had issues with her identity, constantly ‘coming out’ as a new gender with a new name and new personality to match. i’m all for finding yourself, but she was one of those girls who just used it as a ploy to use against people (think of; “how dare you assume my pronouns” people.)
i didn’t mind it, i supported her and used her new name and pronouns whenever she requested. i’m horrible, but i’m not heartless.
things started going wrong when swap came to me about her relationship issues. she would talk about how controlling and manipulative switch was, and yeah, i kind of agreed with her - from what i’d heard, she’d constantly talk about how he used self harm as a method to keep her at home with him, and whenever she brought up leaving him, he’d dangle a ring over her head to get her to stay.
eventually, switch ended up messaging one of mine and guys (this one doesnt have a meaning, just a privacy thing) mutual friend about how he should stay away from guy because he was manipluative and a bad person. we fought after this - cause that’s a fucked up thing to say about someone who was buying your food and driving you around for a year.
it all came to halt when switch messaged me, claiming to be friends with me and wanting to see how i was, and then confessing he thought swap was cheating on him. i told him the best advice i could - have a sit down talk with her and ask her for the honest truth.
unfortunately, switch ended up telling me that swap had been claiming horrible things about me - that i was a liar, a cheater, that i wasn’t taking my medications, and a bunch of other small things.
i had originally told her (with screenshots) what switch was thinking, but after seeing everything she said about me, i blocked her and we havent spoken since.
i’m still on good terms with switch, he admitted he didnt have the full picture about guy, and apologised to me for it (not to him still, not feeling great about that.)
since then, the few times i’ve heard about swap, she’s changed her name, gender and identity around about twelve times (yes, i went back and counted.)
i recently came out as trans to a few of my close friends (switch figured it out, somehow, but i denied it) but right afterwards, swap posted about their new ‘identity’ and name change — and guess what, she was transitioning.
i just found it funny, and recently checked back on her page, and once again, she’s swapped back, and is now using she/they pronouns, with — you guessed it, a brand new name.
it’s horrible of me, but i find some comfort in knowing she still hasn’t found herself and is still on her same bullshit tactics. she sucks, lmao.
thanks for reading any of this, fess.
TLDR; my ex best friend can’t pick a gender, and after lying about me to my cousin / her boyfriend, getting blocked by me, and practically stealing my transition (i believe) as her own, she’s back on her old bullshit.
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i used her current preferred pronouns in this, don’t come for me lmao.
