I tried out an MNPD (malignant narcissistic personality disorder) technique I recently learned from the therapy book on dad last night.
It worked better than anything else I’ve tried and I feel as good as I can about the interaction.
MNPD thrive off attention - negative or positive - so the best thing to do is give them the very least amount of attention you can.
I was doing something when he tried to interrupt me (MNPD will purposely ALWAYS catch you when you’re busy).
I kept my eyes on what I was doing, showed no emotion whatsoever, took a while responding, and when he did his stupid too low talking because he wants me to feel stupid and need clarification, I made him wait while I did more of what I was doing and finally said “oh did you say something?”
He spoke up clearly, asked a real question, didn’t insult me or make stupid comments, and patiently waited for my response. 😱
When I finally responded to the question, he shut up and left the room! That’s always the goal is for him to leave as quickly as possible and he has NEVER left so soon like that 🥳
I didn’t feel manipulated after he left and I didn’t have the burning anger either. I consider that a big win!
MNPD want all their stuff to matter to you (even though nothing of yours matters to them so if you’re dismissive or focusing on something else, they don’t get their fix.
Every interaction with them is a game on their end, and I’ve fought playing games back for years (because playing games with people is sick) but it’s necessary with MNPD so recently I decided okay I’ll play if it means I get as little interaction as possible and I don’t feel like shit every time.
I doubt this would have worked a few years ago before he was on medication and before he was actually scared of me and weak physically himself but it works now and I’m really excited!!
Bonus: My mom was in the room watching TV and afterwards told me she was so excited that she had to hide her face so he wouldn’t see her gleefully grinning because she said I pulled off the technique perfectly and now she wants to try it 😂
