Left On The Curb - Why Divorced Men Troll For Past Lovers, But Only Reel In Old Shoes
It is not surprising that men always seem to turn to their Rolodex after a difficult divorce. There is no balm for the sick soul than memories of innocent times. It is also not surprising that most men either find their adolescent loves fat, married with children, or worst case scenario, clueless as to who was calling them.
So, Thursday and Friday, I asked Devin if I could get Corbin this weekend since he punished me for what my dad said after court last weekend ( that was my weekend). He first stated, “Let me see if we’re doing anything this weekend, my mom might take him to Chuck E Cheese.” So I was understanding, and at the same time, I am like, well, I know that is not going to be an all-day event, so once Friday hit, I asked him twice; he avoided the text, and then Saturday afternoon, he was like, “Well, I have Corbin, and we were out looking at things.” That wouldn’t last all day, either, just another excuse to keep him from me, even though he states a lot, “Wyley, I am not being an asshole, I am not keeping Corbin from you.” I was thinking in my head, hmmm, well, what do you call these last two weekends? He is so fucking contradictory, and as the days pass by, just more reason to go through with the divorce. Just a daily thing of disappointment, I am so ready to move on with my life, because even though I am not living with him, I do definitely feel trapped. On top of that, I have told him numerous times my preferred name and pronouns. He still uses my legal name :/ fucking disrespect. I had plans to do things with Corbin, and I was absolutely looking forward to spending the next two days with him. I am just diving into research and have been hyper-focused on it, which I am glad is keeping me distracted from the bullshit!
Any who,
Kiote<3
Everyone acts like divorce is some magical cure and if it is why’d it make my life so much worse
I explore the agonizing reality of fading shared memories in this candid essay. I discuss the pain of becoming the sole archivist of my present after losing the credible witness to my past twenty years.
My sister in law (we’ll call her Amy) is going on a stake-out tomorrow to “catch” her husband (let’s call him Jose) cheating. He’s been telling her that he’s staying at work late, he even came home with makeup on his shirt. She has all the proof, but wants to catch him in the act so she can have “tangible” proof when she files for divorce. I want to support her, I’m going with her (to not let things escalate), but she’s adamant that if she does catch him with someone, she’s going to confront them yes or yes. She wants to let Jose know that SHE knows he’s been cheating and wants to let the other woman know that he’s a liar, etc. They’ve been together 20 years, and he’s already admitted to cheating on her 8 years ago.
I told her she SHOULDN’T confront him; that as soon as she has video proof we leave and she can serve him the divorce papers with the proof. But she’s ADAMANT to confront them.
I know it’s a lot of “ifs”, like IF we catch him, but I don’t want her to put herself in a position where he’s just going to gaslight her AGAIN. Amy is the bestest woman EVER, I’m not afraid of her getting violent or anything like that, I just don’t want her to stoop down so low to Jose’s level (maybe lower) just to CATCH him.
Any advice on how to convince her not to? ANY advice y'all can give HER to keep her dignity?
In the time frame provided, there’s probably not much you can do, but I would encourage her to consult with a lawyer before any confrontation to make sure she’s best protected and in the best position in case of divorce. A lawyer may have several good, legal reasons not to do an emotionally charged confrontation like this.
I feel like I need to stop saying I LOVE DIVORCE about fictional characters given my parents are actually getting divorced rn but idc
I LOVE DIVORCE!!!!!!!!!!
why do divorced parents talk about their ex spouse as if they’re an urban legend? i genuinely can’t fathom that my parents were together at one point, because every time one of my parents brings up the other parent, they act like just saying their name is going to summon them and wreak havoc
Divorce rates may be declining, but celebrations honoring the snipping of a marriage license have steadily gained popularity.
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