16 feb 2026, 9:42pm
ok screw the wedding journal, tldr: it was rly rly good and heartwarming and omg i cant believe my sister got married, it just all felt so Adult, and i think to when we were in aru 21 and i felt like i was the person who knew her the best. it was a whole cousins reunion, like idt kez aing joel and cucu" momo kongkong have been all together since maybe 2019?? before kezia ke uni?? idk man. it was rly fun and wholesome. i stayed over at the ritz for two nights, woke up at 5:30am for a 6-8am hair and makeup, i felt so fancy. fancy because i got my hair and makeup done at the same time, and because i pretty much had “ladies’ maids” (like in bridgerton) bc the hair and makeup ladies both helped me with my dress and they advised me on what necklace to wear (i ended up using the snowflake silver necklace i got in portugal instead of the circular jade necklace i got in taipei). the hair lady scooped up my boobs to fit into the cups of the dress too lmao. some trivia about her: suami dia amterin ke hotel pagi itu. anyway, not sure what hair salon shes from, but my mua was from @michimakeupartist ’s team. one of the most mindblowing thing was that i literally had a personal assistant. that i shared with aar, but im pretty sure i made more use of him than aar did. he constantly told me where to go according to schedule, i also felt fancy bc i had people get on their knees and help me with my heel buckles whenever i wanted them on or off. he also would hold my bag at the reception, and help me get people to help me pin my buntut dress aka my dress train. my dude wady was always within arms reach, and so semangat. i also felt fancy bc whenever i wanted anything, the staff (that was always around) would help sooo much with whatever i wanted (i didnt ask for much anyway).
the wedding was great, surprisingly on par with all the weddings ive been to pas kecil tho. i thought with this au$90k budget, weddingnya bakal big and grand bgt bgt tp it’s pretty standard. but then again, idk what goes behind the scenes in other ppl’s weddings. anyway, itinerary after hair and makeup was that i was ushered to cece’s room for photoshoot with us two, like a me-helping-her-get-ready type shit. anyway, i pretended to help her with her shoe, and then her media team asked me to say some nice things to her, “cece kayak gmn di rumah?” and i dont rly like being put on the spot and also i felt awkward bc our dynamic has never rly been very words of affirmation and it was only pretty recently that we started opening up and being vulnerable with each other, so when they asked me that with them recording i felt like a deer in headlights and i was like “uhh…BA-IK!”. it was so ngakak bc even saying baik was so kaku like i was held at gunpoint LMAO. everyone laughed hard tho. ive been meaning to give her a warm and fuzzy as a wedding gift since the past month. rip ive been too busy. maybe/hopefully tmrw for cny.
anyway, after our sister photoshoot, she said her vows to the camera (and he did too in his room), and maynn after she did that, the entire room (media team and i) shed tears LMAO. trs cece was like “HEH kok kalian yg nangis” HAHAHAHA. yk what im proud that she came out of her shell and became charismatic. then a thing where he came over and cari-in cece as she hid, they said their vows tgt in private, lama" the fam came (or the other way around i cant rly recall), but eventually EVERYONE came, and then more photoshoots, ama bawling her eyes out, akong laughing and having fun and me doing the thing where i try to take as many candid pics of akong smiling/laughing as possible bc he does it so rarely. then the media team had us surround the couple in a semicircle as they said their vows to each other and maynnn cece started to cry and her voice was so unsteady and she was like “weve said this 3 times but i only cry coz ama is crying HAHAHAA…dia aja g ngerti” sth along those lines. anyway, i started to tear up asw, so i did the sabrina carpenter move and faced the floor to let my tears fall so it wont ruin my makeup LMAO. kei and kayleen saw from the corner of their eyes and told the entire group what i did and we all laughed HAHAHAHA. good mems.
anyway, after that was a little break as ppl changed their fits, then another more formal photoshoot w the backdrop and the big lights and everything and by the end everyone was so tired i rmbr the smile looked so tired, and andrew cece kan stay a bit longer to photo" sendiri kan, and then i rmbr andrew smiled to the camera but the smile looked so dead so then the photoshoot guy (WHO I FINALLY CLOCKED AT THE END OF THE WEDDING THAT HE REMINDS ME OF MR ANDY CUWITA FROM MAVIS) directed andrew to look at cece LOL. anyway, i stayed back a little to watch them, everyone else chilled in our room upstairs coz we had like a 3h break before tepai. i came across melanie aka ceces sydney friend as i was otw up to the room. so i chatted with her and she said she blm mkn siang when i asked so i offered her the lunch boxes and she was like “nah its okay” but i insisted and was like “but its lunchtime”,,, anyway, we took the lunch boxes (rendang) and we went to the lobby where we met papanya andrew and he was like “do u like these? bc i dont. if u dont like it just let us know and we gojek something else” LOL (not those words). anyway, melanie and i settled on two compfy chairs and a small table in front of the buffet restaurant where we ate and yapped. i dont even rmbr what exactly we talked about but it was just chill stuff. she mentioned having the satay last night w her cousin joan, and how joan was off exploring jkt as melanie attends the wedding. anyway, after we ate, i brought mel up to cece’s room as shes having her touchup then i went to mama and my room where everyone (kongkong momo + everyone else) was chilling. after a while, ii sherley and chacha and millie went to the buffet. kei kayleen aar and vella and i made the start of our tiktok transistions. momo and mama lg touchup, papa lg gym, ii cucu was having wardrobe issues w her zipper getting completely stuck, me zoning off to mentally recharge, us j chilling and having fun and charging our phones, me going to cece’s room to call evelin gunawijaya aka our dressmaker to help w ii cucu’s dress which she did a ladder stitch for (it looked so clean afterwards, i was so impressed). i think the issue was that her invisble zipper ketekuk dikit and it got eaten up by the zip and lama" the left and right sides was out of sync and susah bgt krna ud rusak. anyway, after our break, we met up w kezia darlene joel who was touching up in the room sebelah tepai room, we made a lot more tiktoks and foto" sampe i was kinda late to tepai. like a little bit. i came in a bit before andrew’s side was finishing. to be fair, he doesnt have as big of a family as we do.
anyway, tepai was cute to see, the kids also did a whole train to get angpao from them two, then after tepai baru kita semua ke reception. well, our immediate families did, untuk mini-rehearsal and foto". then the doors opened and everyone at tepai came in, we were onstage after practicing the toast bit so i could see the crowd from a bird’s eye view. it didnt seem like a lot. anyway, after that we were ushered to ruangan samping stage to have a private dinner. andrew and ceces immediate family was on one table and aar and i were exiled to the neighbouring table LMAO. strange bc there were literally!! two extra spots in the family table so we actually couldve just sat there…
anyway, we (aar and i) ate like the big backs we are and then after we were all done, we were ushered to the outside of the reception hall in front of another entrance and we waited for them to call out our names so we can each have our grand entrances. felt so fancy again, walking down the fancy laid-out carpet, seeing myself on the big screen, having EVERYONE watch me and ive also never had that many cameras on me at one time. blessed! to have this experience of getting sm princess treaetment. anyway, we walked up stage and toasted our glasses, bro i felt like an alcoholic rewatching the clip bc i asked papa if we had to finish our glasses and he was wishy washy so i took it as a yes and i was the only one that chugged our champagne glass…,, i was kinda dreading it bc i dont like fizzy, and it was sprite or sarm. anyway!
i spent most of the wedding walking around, talking to michelle ngui, cousins, gladys chang, jessica kelly, taking pics, going to the photobooth for more pics and doing the telephone msgs w the fam (i think aar) and michelle ngui, and then nearing the end also taking pics w the mba". who actually quit the day after (papa told them to stay a bit longer to come to the party lol). anyway, i also spent most of the time onstage, smiling and taking pics w all the family and friend groups. yk what, after this and my potlucks on exchange, i realise that i rly just like being part of the party and not rly interacting with people. more like im just soaking in the moment bc i personally dont wanna be stuck in a conversation with anyone instead of roaming around doing my thing and eating and listening to others. does that make sense. i hope it does. anyway! after the whole fake cake cutting and video showing and butterfly kisses daddy-daughter dance (which was soo cute and i could tell that it was hella special for papa, which im glad that hes happy), and going through pics w all the friend/family groups on the list, the party ended. wild night. insane day. cant believe shes married. ik it’s a long time coming, but it just felt so adult.
anyway, got back to the room, chilled a bit, got changed, then decided to got to cece’s room to itung angpao. this was because cece andrew called and was like “lets just open the angpaos now, itll take us an hour” (spoiler alert: it did not take an hour, it took us like 2-3 hours that night and 2-3 days kemudian w mama and i only). it was kinda fun tho. cece was in her hair and makeup and didnt wanna take it off krna sayang, their room was also v decorated w swan towels and rose petals on the bed and bathroom mirror drawn on with well wishes. singaporean niecenya mama andrew was logging the angpaos on my excel sheet, kayleen took charge of writing the amt/crossing out names on the reception book, mama and andrew/papa (?) bukain angpao, mama andrew and cece and aar were moral support lol. after the niece left to sleep bc of an early flight to sg, i took after writing the names on the angpao. we finished one book aka reception book A and then mama and i continued the rest when we got home. anyway, good moments, much love.
aar, kayleen, and i were in a room tgt on like the 11th floor (1111 im pretty sure), it was like a teaser to our living situation now lol. anyway, pretty chill, aar and kayleen shared a bed bc kayleen was laying down next to the charger and then males gerak so they slept on the same bed. i highkey think they are like twins these days. since probs between the time i left to a few months ago. anyway, i also feel like kayleen is the kind of person yg sopan bgt and gmw repotin me aka the oldest one. or something like that. idk lah. anyway, kay me aar and papa went to the spa the morning after, i loveeeee a jacuzzi. it was so relaxing, trs i kepanasan, so i was cold plunging a lot in the neighbouring minipool. throwback to saunaing in norway. the cold plunge cold-shower feeling novelty was no longer there, but it still felt refreshing. mayn, the first time i experienced norwegian saunas was so interesting, like wdym i just JUMP into ice cold water after being steamed alive. anyway, i do love being boiled in a jacuzzi and it rly was nice. but yeah it did get hot. anyway, kayleen opened up to me, about fears of not making friends at uni, about how covid made her batch all stick to their own friendgroups and resultedly her class isnt v tightknit, her curhating about how her friendgroup or her classmates gmw bgt talk to anyone else outside of their class and how her friend was like “…kay how do u make friends” and kay being like “mrka aja gmw talk to anyone outside their circle yah mrka gmn akan make friends at uni sih” (not those words at all but sth like that. anyway, her curhating about if she thinks her and kei got along well growing up. i said that i think they were close, like they liked the same stuff or got given the same things growing up. anyway, she curhat abt how they butt heads sometimes, bc kayleen orgnya g sk yg manja, and kei and vella exactly the same (manja), and if kay ga (i forgot the word, tp kek samperin) vella, apalagi samperin kei. and how kei is very only child vibes, and how kay speculates that emg she doesnt rly know much other than what shes taught and sees in her family (coz we act like our parents in general) and “ii cucu kan special needs, tp kei g special needs but she still acts like that”. im staying out of that mayn. anyway, good yaps good company, my favourite hangout style.
trs we packed the rest of our stuff trs pulanggg. kayleen dijemputin by her driver, kt dijemputin by pak fredy. also, mama ceritain that when kay was talking about mau nginep on the wedding day, i think they were talking about it too loudly in the room, and kei said to ii cucu “kok i g diajak sih…” anyway, they just said that she had to go home (bc her granpa dr uncle charlies side passed away, and superstition says that u cant go to a wedding and a funeral on the same day,, thats why uncle charlie g dtg to the wedding, but ii cucu emg flew to jkt FOR the wedding so she came alone w kei). anyway, kay jg blg ke kita, kay g blg apa" coz until the day before the wedding, kay aja gtw kl kei bakal ke wedding. and also, when aar made the invitation phone call, kei lg di g rmh so poor timing ig. anyway, as we were going to the car w pak fredy, papa was like “oh fred kok u g masuk ke ruangan acara krmn, ud disuruh bawa baju bagus masa di basement doang, ud so busy w everything ud g kepikir to kabarin” or sth like that. pak fredy in his nonchalant behaviour didnt say anything,, hard to tell if he wished to have come or not, but yeah. it ignited a bit of sad empathy in me but i also think that pak fredy rly dgaf. anyway! THERE WE HAVE IT. A FULL DEBRIEF!!!
it was cute. the bbs reunion was cute, cece said that its the first time theyve all seen each other since graduation so that was cute. i briefly talked to jesskel abt skippy and she told me they buried him. hung around michelle ngui a lot towards the end as she pretty much was following her cousin lawris and zoeryan around (nyaw, trista was missed that day). and then cece invited us two on stage to take a pic w her and andrew! so cute. anyway, fun night. much love and appreciation, and much much gratitude for the fam in being able to have and hold something as grand as this. growing up, i used to never want a huge wedding bc its such a waste of money, esp bc it’s filled w ppl i dont recognise or care for, but now i do appreicate potentially having a huge day just to celebrate me and having it filled with so much family thats there to support me. not to mention the chindo tradition of it all. hooray! much love.
