#gnc

Shoutout to the non-passing transgender people, whether that be because you’re not at your transition goal yet or because your transition goal never involves passing for cisgender.

You don’t need to be held to a standard of completely separating yourself from all possible stereotypes of a man or woman in order to be recognized as non-binary.

You don’t need to be held to a standard of erasing all hints of masculinity on your person and within your being in order to be recognized as a woman.

You don’t need to be held to a standard of erasing all hints of femininity on your person and within your being in order to be recognized as a man.

Being any of the above can look however you look, and for the love of fuck, these identities are not mutually exclusive.

Your gender doesn’t belong to anybody else, and unwanted assertion from other people on what to do with your gender is encroachment. This even includes representation beyond your own self. If you feel validated by seeing a man with breasts, seeing a woman voice a male character, or seeing a non-binary person who doesn’t feel bothered by “not looking non-binary,” then I’m proud of you. Don’t let people shame you for what presentation brings you comfort in your gender.

You’re just as entitled to being GNC as cis people are.

Anyway I describe myself here as “GNC cis” because I feel like it’s the best way to describe my presentation but the truth is I don’t really know if I’m gender-conforming or gender-nonconforming. Like I don’t shave anywhere and I use men’s deodorant and I don’t wear any makeup and I hate purses and the one time I wore a swimsuit that felt more masculine and wasn’t a bikini I loved it, which is arguably GNC. But on the other hand I also tend to wear women’s clothes and have long-ish hair and I don’t mind dresses in the right context and I do like a fair number of stereotypically “feminine” things like unicorns and Disney princesses and I look pretty much like a regular woman most of the time, which is arguably gender-conforming. In fact, you could argue that “cis woman who doesn’t shave” doesn’t really count as GNC at all.

But I think the main reason I lean towards calling myself GNC is because that is how I have been treated by other people. As a kid I didn’t see myself as a “girly girl” or a “tomboy” but everyone decided I was one or the other (usually “tomboy”; I was teased by a couple boys for being “too girly” but a lot of that was just because of my neurodivergent hypersensitivity) and proceeded to treat me differently for it. Just for existing as myself. And then when I grew up my family tried to make me shave just to fit some gender norms and that is a huge integral part of how I view my gender presentation today. It wasn’t meant to be revolutionary or defiant, but it became that way because that was how everyone else chose to label it.

And honestly? My presentation has fluctuated a lot, too. I HATED any kind of femininity in elementary school because I wanted to get in with this group of boys who hated it, then I overcorrected and ended up going down a radfem path in high school, and now part of me wants to overcorrect again because I don’t want to be seen as gender-conforming, even if I feel guilty for wanting that since I also want to keep my long-ish hair and “feminine” interests. In the past I remember loving these really twirly dresses; now I adore baggy cargo pants.

Regardless of how I am Doing Gender at a point in time, though, I always hear messages that I am Doing It Wrong. And that’s what I mean by GNC.

green forever 💚

[he/him]

sun!!! finally!!!

Amanra from “Age of Mythology”; I’m actually not entirely sure how much she fits this blog; she is undoubtedly cool and I really enjoyed her in the original campaign of the game, however, in how far is she GNC?
She probably isn’t that GNC for the context of the time period she is probably supposed to belong to (ancient Nubia), but for my society nowadays she definitely is GNC.
Anyway, I wanted to mention her nonetheless. A warrior, a military leader and a priestess of Isis. All with a serious and stern personality.

Adam and Eve from “Only Lovers Left Alive”, I adore their looks and particularly their dynamic. For me it’s an amazing “androgynous for androgynous” couple who are totally on eye-height with each other, through both the good moments and the bad ones.

And I mean they’re vampires on top of that.

Yknow for how silly my dysphoria can be sometimes I’m really surprised I don’t tend to get dysphoric over the hairstyle I wear when I run for my sports

My hair is short and pretty layered, and combined with the fact that I do sports most of the year and I hate running with my hair down (did it for a season, never again) I, a) have to wear my hair in short pigtails at the base of my neck, and b) have to time my haircuts accordingly between seasons because I like my hair a few inches shorter than what’s ideal for putting it up

But anyways yeah I’m surprised my pigtails don’t make me dysphoric. Especially considering the stupid things that make me dysphoric (like ankle socks)

While I think of Lore for my mains I just made some new oc’s/ sims to post on here just for the fun of it. They are not a part of my alternate world, all that’s the same is the a/b/o biology I cooked up and the rest if for me to figure out along the way as I just have fun with them. Maybe I’ll even go for the traditional omegaverse setting just to see what happens but I do love the non traditional omegaverse of Alpha’s being at the bottom of the social hierarchy. I’ll think about it.

I just want it documented somewhere that in 2019, on instagram dot com, i coined a stupid ass term “genderpiss” that i posted about in the “zepeto queer discourse” format of the time. I defined the term as like, some sort of punk, rebellious, trashy version of genderfluid. It wasnt a serious post but it wasnt satire either, i was just joking “haha my gender is piss” type shit.

Unfortunately i got bullied in mass for it so badly that i had to delete the post. Some larger content creator literally made a “call to action” for people to come insult me and shit. Nowadays i see people making that kind of joke all the time so i suppose i was ahead of my time.

I’m pretty sure i could still find the original jpegs on my computer or something if i can be arsed.

On a more serious note I owe so much to unapologetically gnc people around me. You made me realize that it’s possible to embrace myself and be myself in spite of what others say. You’re amazing and you inspire others around you and you’re light in this world. Thank you.

Ranked competitive gender in that it’s kinda all a game to me but you bet your ass I’m gonna win it. Is this anything?

Hello I will be a boyfriend again one day, so here I am practicing

On the contrary I will also be a girlfriend again one day. More to come on this

I can’t wait to put him in world and take all the pics of him I can cuz this fit is just too cute.

He just serves effortlessly and I love it.

Sometimes, I’m not a fan of being asked my pronouns. I understand that this is my problem, that the only reason it bothers me is because it implies in my head that I’m not man enough (something I know is an issue in itself). It makes me nervous that I may never get the chance to be a man unquestioned.

On the other hand, I’m glad the local store’s cashier asked me because it means they probably ask others, too. It shows they want to make queer people comfortable while shopping. Honestly, it’s something I should do myself, as it fights the perceived need to be a specific archetype to be gendered correctly. Maybe it’s not a matter of being something without question more than it is being considerate of others and their identities.

I think I should ask the cashier’s pronouns the next time I see them.

I want people to appreciate my femininity by freaking out the way they do when a cishet white man wears a cardigan

I love presenting feminine but in a subversive way but only I know its subversive. I wish people would tell that on the inside I don’t have a feminine gender i just like to dress fem and wear makeup and do my hair pretty but I’m not a girl.

I just look like a woman but im nonbinary but im gnc so I like to dress different from that does that make sense

I like to dress like a girl the way a gnc guy or a drag queen dresses like a girl, its my gender performance not my gender expression or identity

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