Could we not, perhaps,
Share one body,
Between us.
I hate to be alone.
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The Codependent’s Guide to Surviving a Breakup
Originally posted at: https://theonlinetherapist.blog/the-codependents-guide-to-surviving-a-breakup/
Break-ups can be nasty experiences and we all go through them. It can be a shock to the system and can knock us off course for a while. The best case scenario is that a couple can mutually agree to separate and logically work through that process and even then it can be difficult adjusting to the…
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‘We were like this … Insisting that we could not stay this way, gripping each other, with no hands free to go about our lives, and yet refusing to let go.’
Lauren Rothery, from Television
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This phating vid was so funny to me. You could just see how combined those boys are. they are really lucky they got each other
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Flash fiction: ‘A Codependent’s Request’
Enough bread-crumbing. I’m ready for the whole loaf. I plan to eat it all at once, furtive, rapidly, mechanically. Give me enough fuel and enough space to sit in shame for many days.
–Sarah Torribio
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Twin Flames Aren’t Cosmic — They’re Codependent - Dualistic Unity
#twinflames aren’t cosmic — they’re #codependent.
Intensity isn’t proof of destiny. Often, it’s fear of being alone wearing #spiritual language.
https://dualisticunity.com/twin-flames-arent-cosmic-theyre-codependent/
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Really not a fan of insinuating relationships are some end goal.
Sure, I’d like to be with someone, but I’m not going to die alone and I’m not even alone right now.
In any sense, are we ever TRULY alone? Whether that be in an optimistic or pessimistic way or whatever.
But privacy concerns aside, why is it the end goal? And why are we in such a goddamn rush?
I just saw some post that was like “being loved by the right person will help you become who you were meant to be” and I cringed so fucking hard. I know they meant it like “the right person won’t scare you into being small,” but I just felt so disgusted by this idea that in order to even BE who you’re destined to be, you HAVE TO FIND THE RIGHT PERSON? Fucking bullshit is what that is.
Yeah, I may be single, but I’m happy. I also hope that whenever that changes, I’ll still be happy, and I’ll still be me.
I’ve learned the hard way that as soon as I lose me, that is an absolute confirmation that I am no longer happy in that relationship. I don’t EVER want to be in that place again where I’ve given up my identity just to feel wanted by someone else. I am no longer able to generate any sense of belonging, I have then lost my light that kept me going.
The moment I’ve lost myself while with someone, that’s the moment I’ve sacrificed myself, everything I stand for. That is the moment I’ve sacrificed that entire relationship and everything I’ve ever loved.
Yes, it is that fucking serious. Codependency is something that can be worked on, yes, but codependency is lethal.
Besides, even just from a normal perspective, why is my value tied to who I am or am not with at all? Why isn’t my value just tied to who I am intrinsically? Not my achievements, not who I am on the outside and not how I paint my face to appease others/mask or engage in facework, I just mean me.
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Twin Flames Aren’t Cosmic — They’re Codependent - Dualistic Unity
#twinflames aren’t cosmic — they’re #codependent.
Intensity isn’t proof of destiny. Often, it’s fear of being alone wearing #spiritual language.
https://dualisticunity.com/twin-flames-arent-cosmic-theyre-codependent/
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6 Signs You’re Heading for a Co-Dependency
I’ve been reflecting a lot on co-dependency, and I wanted to highlight in this post, some signals that can help you figure out if you’re heading in that direction. A co-dependency is an unhealthy relationship in which one person is enabling the other’s bad habits, addiction, or fears, and they feel they cannot leave. Here are five signs to look out for:
Too much reliance. Whether it’s for…
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Week 46: How I Stay Aligned with My Recovery Goals
The Habits That Keep Me Focused (Most Days!)
Staying aligned with recovery goals can feel a bit like trying to walk in a straight line while carrying a wobbly stack of grocery bags. It is possible, but not always graceful. Over the years, I have learned that the secret is not perfection, it is having small habits that gently steer me back when life (or my own brain) veers off-road. Here are the…
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‘I thought you liked our nights apart,’ I said, wanting him to repeat that he didn’t, not anymore.
'I used to. But now I miss you. It honestly scares me a little.’
Jessica Gross, from Open Wide
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… I’d felt like my mother’s awkward shadow whenever we left the house.
Jessica Gross, from Open Wide
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i fully believe ben and adam saying that they are heterosexual men with monogamous girlfriends. it’s not a contradiction at all to the fact that they are embodying toxic yaoi
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Week 39: What My Challenges Have Taught Me
Finding Strength and Wisdom Through Life’s Hardest Lessons
When I look back at some of the hardest chapters in my life, I realize they have been some of my greatest teachers. At the time, all I could see was the pain, confusion, and frustration. I wondered why I had to go through so much and if there would ever be a light at the end of the tunnel. What I know now is that those challenges were…
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yeah i mean sex is good and all but what i really want in a relationship is to be so catastrophically codependent that we make history as worstest guys ever and our wikipedia image is you holding me while im bleeding out, my barely lucid self asking you if youre hurt. But yeah. penis i guess.
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Week 38: Celebrating How Far I’ve Come
Reflecting on the person I was versus who I am now
There was a time when I couldn’t even imagine being where I am today. Back then, I was buried in self-doubt, tangled up in codependency, and constantly trying to measure my worth through the eyes of others. I said yes when I wanted to say no. I bent myself into shapes that didn’t even look like me, all for the sake of being accepted and…