#ableism

This is infantilization of autistic people.

Also, just because it’s not as bad as something else doesn’t mean it’s something you should deal with. Neither you or anyone deserves that.

Thats ableism btw. Legit how do you see a random person with a disability and think “oh I should tell them to amputate something that doesn’t need amputation! What a wonderful idea! ” like I get if it’s as a joke like when your parent or something says that when you get a cut but to a complete STRANGER? baffling.

Ahh I love casual ableism.

Like my partner and friends laughing at my AuADHD memory loss like it’s a joke.

Like it’s funny that I drop thoughts in the middle of expressing them and can’t recover them ever again.

I forget that I’m making food (which is actually kind of dangerous)

I forget to take my meds 60% of the time. Which is why I have VNA’s. And they think it’s funny too.

I forget to eat and drink water. I starve (from diabetes) and dehydrated easily and constantly unless I’m reminded to do those things either by others or by pain.

I forget all kinds of plans I make or suggest to other people, and they just think I’m flakey.

Even more examples that I can’t remember.

No one really helps me with any of this. I’m just expected to will myself through it with magic or something.

And what do people do? Laugh at it. Even though it causes me visible emotional distress that I cant remember shit.

And on top of this? I was addicted to Ativan for at least 3-4 years. Ativan when abused, fucks the part of your brain that manages memory. I had no support. I lived alone. No one cared enough about me.

There is a whole 20 year span of my life I can’t remember because of CPTSD. That’s…a majority of my life.

I’m glad this is so funny to people.

I’m glad that my being rarely able to actually do anything I want to do, let alone things I need to do, and this causing the quality of my life and mental health suffers…

Is so fucking funny to other homo sapiens who should remember that they are animals. And should remember their place in the universe, which is not that special actually.

Not even to mention how all this laughing at my disability seriously triggers my BPD & OCD symptoms. Which then people get mad at me for.

I am exhausted of this species. Like please just let me fucking die already.

no social space is safe when you have a personality disorder & i’m so fucking tired

My family knows these twin autistic boys who are nonverbal and high support needs, and they always use them as a weapon to argue that I’m “not really autistic” or “too high functioning” or “super mild Asperger’s” and I have no right to talk about autistic people in general. Today I was informed by the boys’ allistic grandfather that my stimming “isn’t the same” as their stimming and mine is just “the same thing regular people do”. When I objected, he ordered me to “not to talk to him about autism” and said I can’t possibly understand Real Autism because there’s a generation gap and I don’t count. I was then told by my parents to shut up and change the subject or I am being rude.

I’m so sick of this oppression olympics game allistic people shove on me and how I never feel like I’m autistic enough, disabled enough, even as I simultaneously am constantly bombarded with messages that I will never be normal.

psychiatric abuse and practitioner derived stigmas are so normalized that people will laugh about them whenever they actually notice them as if they are quirky and funny instead of horrifying and indicative of a deeply violent institution that values conformity over the well being of their patients

The albeism in Stranger Things is still something I am so mad and upset about. Especially with Max in this season. They had the chance to write a beautifully layered and three dimensional disabled charecter and just… didn’t do it. This would have meant so much to me, as someone who needs/uses mobility aids, and to a lot of other disabled people as well.

Max is someone who has always been portrayed as someone very active, to have had her having to come to terms with not being able to do things in the same way as before and finding ways to do them differently would have been so powerful (?).

Characters with mobility aids and disabilities in general are way too scarcely portrayed in media and if they are it is often still interlaced with ableism to a certain degree.

In hindsight, I’m sad how much hope I had in how Max’s storyline would be continued. To see her just being (physically) completely fine felt a bit like a gut punch.

(and also all of the other main characters)

If the concept of lolcows makes you anything but sad I literally hate you and think you deserve to die

“But they did xyz so they deserve it!!!” and xyz is something they were pushed to do by viewers or was something that only came out long after they had initially started being harassed. Did they deserve it then too? Back when they were just a random autistic person on the internet that couldn’t understand that they were being made fun of and/or fell for and “overreacted” to trolling?

Fuck it, it’s Emerson Hate o’ Clock.

Then, again, do not tell me, as a good man did to-day, of my obligation to put all poor men in good situations. Are they my poor? I tell thee, thou foolish philanthropist, that I grudge the dollar, the dime, the cent I give to such men as do not belong to me and to whom I do not belong. There is a class of persons to whom by all spiritual affinity I am bought and sold; for them I will go to prison, if need be; but your miscellaneous popular charities; the education at college of fools; the building of meeting-houses to the vain end to which many now stand; alms to sots; and the thousandfold Relief Societies;—though I confess with shame I sometimes succumb and give the dollar, it is a wicked dollar which by-and-by I shall have the manhood to withhold. … Their works are done as an apology or extenuation of their living in the world,—as invalids and the insane pay a high board. Their virtues are penances. I do not wish to expiate, but to live. My life is not an apology, but a life. It is for itself and not for a spectacle.

–Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Self-Reliance”

Spot the difference!

ALT

PEOPLE WHO USE THE R SLUR WHILE THE WORLD TURNS ACTIVELY RIGHTWARD: surely the way i speak is not influenced by anything at all nor is it an indicator of just how shit things are for certain groups of people. i speak normal

whenever we bring up that someone is antisemitic, or that their rhetoric resembles nazi rhetoric, the immediate reaction is as if we’ve personally insulted them, to call us crazy and delusional, to call us misinformed and bigoted.

it says a lot about the antisemite, that being called what they are is the most horrible ‘insult’ of all to them.

so tired of hearing “well you absolutely CAN do it, just modify like this and this and also spend ten times longer to learn it because it’s way more difficult physically and not at all intuitive or comfortable!!”

yeah i do sometimes enjoy learning and figuring things out and modifying shit, but GODDAMN it is overwhelming when it’s every thing i do. if i get a bike or a pair of jeans or a bag of chips, i want to have more than one option (if that). i want to not be grateful for scraps.

this is linguicism and ableism.

I love hearing people discuss “what exactly makes Elon musk like this? he must be neurodivergent in some way” As if he didn’t literally grow up in apartheid south africa as the son of a slave owner mine owner

just read gideon the ninth and I mostly loved it but the most disabled characters all turning out evil is putting me off a little. hope the next books are better about it :/

“You said too many words you are obviously big mad angry and not at all actually communicating anything worth reading” is a take that needs to die.

I wasnt angry. I use a lot of words, especially when I am not actively angry - its actuallya result of trying to compensate for several different disabilities i have. It is not my fault being presented with “a lot of words” makes your brain error alert or some shit.

Just say you cant be fucked to read or listen to more than a paragraph

I wasnt angry - im barely anngry right now

But im not going to coddle peoples precious little fee fees when they say ableist shit

this is british specific but alton towers (the famous theme park) had announced it’s not letting people with ADHD and ASD use the accessible queue anymore

no longer can they get return times, they now need to queue in the main queue

yeah so this is just plain ableism. people like to shout “oh well people are abusing the system so something has to be done” but fun fact you have to prove you need it at alton towers. you have to take a doctors note that states you need it to them to be given the pass

the system literally can’t be abused but ofc that’s what people are saying is happening

it’s a trial right now so i really hope it goes badly and they revert it but damn fuck i love alton towers and i love rollercoasters so this is actually just shit

It’s aggravating how people love nothing more than to defend slurs, especially the r-slur.

Me: Hey maybe don’t say that word

Them: Omg it’s a quote 🙄

I don’t care?? Like just don’t use the word??

Jfc, that’s why everyone ignored Green Day’s use of it (also because it’s their favorite guys)

Using slurs as insults is not reclaiming and I’m tired of pretending it is to appeal to the masses. You are using the tools of your oppressors right now.

Disabled people ARE part of the working class, we have to work our asses off putting up with the rest of the world’s bullshit every day, all while not having the funds to do it.