On International Women’s Day I was asked who a woman is that inspires me or I appreciate and I said my daughter.
And I can safely, after this past week, say that title still stands.
I knew witnessing my daughter in birth would be one of the hardest things ever but I seriously misunderstood exactly how hard.
This woman is my hero. I am so inspired by her grit and strength.
Watching and…
The Day I Saw Them Without the Love Filter
I Left My First Marriage and Became the Woman I Was Meant to Be
I Left My First Marriage and Became the Woman I Was Meant to Be
We Stopped Dating and It Almost Cost Us Our Marriage
Maybe my kids are happy to be in long term relationships and desire it because they have seen their parents in a healthy one and know what it looks like and that it’s not the end of the world.
Maybe my children want children young because they haven’t heard us say that they ruined our lives but instead how they enriched them and made our lives better so they know that having children doesn’t…
This has probably been the closest I’ve been to depression in so long I can’t even put a time on it.
This year has been a big year.
And I never imagined losing my dog would be the straw that breaks my back.
The moment that forces me to slow down and stop.
The piece that says you have the tools now are you using them?
And again, it makes me wonder how on earth I lived my life in this state…
Those who have known me a while know I reclaimed my name, Shantel, a few years back.
Yet at retreat the ladies who I hadn’t met had trouble relating me with my name they told me. And I’ve noticed recently I’ve been Shannii again as much as Shantel.
During my magical visit to Avebury we spoke with and asked for messages from the Trees and the Wind.
That night in ceremony we created a potent…
It’s something that’s been weighing on my heart lately, especially because my own children have found love young, and it’s beautiful. But I keep hearing, “They’re too young to settle down,” or “They should be out there living their lives!” And it leaves me wondering—why do so many people think that being in a committed, loving relationship means you’re not really living?
Are people saying my…
Why Is Being in a Loving, Long-Lasting Relationship Considered “Not Living” These Days?
If you haven’t seen – there has been a social experiment going around on social media asking if you would rather be alone in the woods with a bear or a man, showing women saying they would feel safer with the bear than a man.
There was a time where I would have chosen the bear too.
There was a time when I thought there were no safe men.
There was a time when my nervous system was so…
There was a time where I would have chosen the bear too.
There was a time when I thought there were no safe men.
There was a time when my nervous system was so on that nothing you could do would ever give me a fright because I was prepared for everything.
There was a time where I never said no, and therefore kept the story in my head going that there was only one thing men wanted from…
If you haven’t seen – there has been a social experiment going around on social media asking if you would rather be alone in the woods with a bear or a man, showing women saying they would feel safer with the bear than a man.
There was a time where I would have chosen the bear too.
There was a time when I thought there were no safe men.
There was a time when my nervous system was so…
Throughout our lives we have various requirements that must be met.
These are our needs and desires, which range from basic physical needs to selfless desire.
When any of these are not met, negative physical, mental, and emotional complications and addictions can result, sometimes with distressful consequences.
This post is about needs.
A need is an explicit requirement, like feeling hungry…
Creativity is a quality that we all have buried inside of us, one way or the other.
It involves the invention of something new or the re-invention of something already existing to make it useful or interesting.
Some people’s creative abilities are closer to the surface and one can easily see the manifestations of them.
People say that their creativity is “inborn”.
For others, expressing…
This may be an Unpopular opinion but Femininity cannot be taught.
At least not in the way I see most people thinking it can.
It’s not wearing flowing dresses.
It’s not wearing long flowy hair.
It’s not wearing makeup.
It’s not a certain way of speaking.
It’s not bigger boobs.
It’s not bowing down to all the men.
Anyone teaching this stuff is teaching you how to play a character.
And…
Are you tired of the same old existence?
Do you want more out of life than what life seems to be handing you?
You can rise above mediocrity but you must first change your mindset.
To begin, you must have a keen desire for change in your life.
You must know what you want, even if you don’t yet know how to get it.
Be definitive in your desire.
If you only had a short time to live, what would…
There is a polarity in everything in life…. happy and sad, rich and poor, fat and thin.
It is the contrast and the differences between things that can really help us clarify what we want in life.
When it comes to creating your life there is the having and the “not” having.
In order to create what you want in your life you need to focus on what you want, in other words “the having”.
If you…
The woman you see before you today is not the woman she used to be.
I never would have done the things I do or said the things I say.
Yet here I am.
I know those thoughts of I can’t do it
That fast beating heart
The small constricted breaths
Feeling weak in the knees
The negative self talk
I get it
I’ve felt it
I’ve experienced anxiety too
It’s not often I come across someone who…
Life consistently presents us with challenges and changes and at times this can lead to us feeling stressed.
Planning how to manage and cope in various life situations, and finding out which coping skills work best for you, is the key to succeeding with stress rather than experiencing distress.
This post contains ideas for coping with stress and also acute emotional crises.
Here are some ideas…
My husband told me that since I became a Glamma I have had a very short, sharp tongue when it comes to time wasting.
And he made me realise he’s right.
Yet when my granddaughter is in my vicinity I could ‘waste’ all the time in the world just watching her.
And I think to myself it’s because babies are our biggest signs of how quickly time moves, whether we want it to or not.
I’ve often been…
These are the people who inspire me!
I’ve studied them, and I’ve noticed they have the following traits in common:
They work hard! Yet, they play hard, too! They get up early, they rarely complain, they expect performance from others, but they expect extraordinary performance from themselves. Repeated, high-level success starts with a recognition that hard work pays off.
They are incredibly…
This trip has had me in all the feels and I have been trying to figure out why?
Its not the first time I’ve gone away solo so that’s not it.
Its not even the first time I’ve been to this country so that’s not it.
Then I started thinking about how normally when I go away for this period of time it has some kind of volunteer aspect to it. Normally I’m volunteering in environmental or animal…
Throughout our lives we have various requirements that must be met.
These are our needs and desires, which range from basic physical needs to selfless desire.
When any of these are not met, negative physical, mental, and emotional complications and addictions can result, sometimes with distressful consequences.
This post is about needs.
A need is an explicit requirement, like feeling hungry…
When asking the majority of people before a contest, whether it be a rugby match or a spelling bee, what they want, they will inevitably say, “I want to WIN.”
Who doesn’t?
I have yet to meet anyone who competes that says they don’t care if they win as long as they have fun.
Note I said someone who competes. I don’t, and have never, like competitions. I quit ballet when my teacher asked me to…
You know what the real problem is with getting organized? We have too much stuff!
I’m willing to bet you have some things you (or someone you live with) keep without having a good enough reason.
I know I have a few drawers and hiding holes in my whare! I even still have a bag of letters from my friends in high school! And I’m 40!
So why DO we keep so much stuff?
The thing is, it’s easier to…
Meditation is a form of alternative medicine that promotes relaxing and mental calmness through the use of controlling or suspending thoughts for a certain period of time. Since meditation involves physical and mental relaxation, it’s a great way to relieve stress.
When some people hear about meditation as a way to relieve stress, they laugh and think it’s a bunch of baloney.
They think that…
Time management is a big concern for a lot of people.
I keep hearing, “There are just not enough hours in the day…” or “Where does my time go?”
Face it we all live busy lives. Work, family, and other commitments keep us all hopping.
To utilize better time management, it’s important to recognize what the specific problems are.
Is it not having enough time for you or your family? Maybe you are…
The place where things go wrong is when you assume the absolute of who a person is.
It gives them no room to grow.
It gives them no room to make mistakes.
It gives them no room to make different choices to what you think they should.
It stops you from being able to love them as the person they are because you are assuming you know all of them.
When you choose to love the pieces they share…
Women have always been the gatekeepers of humanity.
If a man couldn’t provide and protect, he couldn’t reproduce.
If a man was killed in a hunt other men took on the role as father and provider.
Nowadays men are out here taking no responsibility for their own, let alone anybody else’s.
And we, as women, get to take responsibility for the decisions we may have made in choosing who to procreate…
What do you want to achieve? In life? In business? In general?
Before you actually set up, decide what you want to achieve with these things.
Write it down
Research shows that only 3% of people write down their goals, and on average these people earn 10 times those who don’t have goals. Plus research shows that people with up to date written goals are as much as 3100% more successful than…
Breathe
Melt
Breathe
Melt
It’s amazing the places your mind can take you to
If you listen
And learn
Trust
And surrender
Nothing around you
Nowhere to be
Stillness
Quiet
Allow the noise of your mind to dissipate
White light
Space
Safety within
Breathe
Melt
Nowhere to be
Can you allow?
Do you run?
Do you stay in this moment?
Or are you racing to the…
