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LOST: Bernard Nadler [ESFJ 2w1]

MBTI Type: ESFJ

Dominant Extroverted Feeling – ease of emotional communication and shaping their actions around how their decisions affect others: Bernard is extroverted, warm, and outreaching; he easily makes others feel at home and tries to motivate everyone to work together for everyone’s best interests. When he decides to create a plan to get off the island and get them all rescued, he…

LOST: Bernard Nadler [ESFJ 2w1]

Call the Midwife: Matthew Aylward [ISFJ 2w1]

MBTI Type: ISFJ

Matthew cares very much about his family, but also has a traditional streak that doesn’t show itself until later in the series run, when he chooses to make all the financial decisions and tries to save their resources, without ever asking his wife what she wants or how she intends to contribute. He sees himself as the chief provider, and does not take it well when forced to rely…

Call the Midwife: Matthew Aylward [ISFJ 2w1]

Whew, it’s “big test week” and my in-laws are showing their generosity through gifts and asking if they can help me in any way possible.

I hate accepting help and freebies. From my immediate family, gifts always came with strings and expectations. They were never truly free. I’ve swung so far the opposite direction after hurt that I don’t want to accept anything.

But I love giving. I love to help, to give gifts, to send words of encouragement to others. It gives me joy in return.

I’ve had to learn to accept gifts knowing that I now have people in my life like me. If I give them a chance to help me, they feel needed, involved, and appreciated. And they don’t ask for anything in return.

And now that I’ve seen that hesitancy to accept gifts in myself, I see it in others. Especially patients. The patients who have been the caretakers, the fixers. They don’t want to “be a bother”, but their health has tanked. So I pick up on it - “Would you help your friend/family if they were in this situation? You sound like you love helping others; time to let other people get joy out of helping you.” And usually that’s enough for them to pause and accept some things.

Cheers to the givers, the caretakers, the helpers. May you give freely and accept graciously.

‧₊˚ ୨ Enneagram type 2 ୧˚₊

˗ˋˏ Sp2 characters ˎˊ-

Maple - ES(F) sp268sx ESE EFVL

Hiyoko Saionji - ES(F) sp286sx ESE FEVL

Mikan Tsukimi - EF(S) sp269so ESE EFVL

Marinette Dupain-Cheng - EF(S) sp296so ESE FEVL

Gideon Gleeful - EF(N) sp287so EIE FEVL

Mizuki Akiyama - EF(S) sp279sx ESE FEVL

Chanel Oberlin - EF(S) sp286sx ESE FEVL

Darwin Watterson - EF(S) sp296so ESE FEVL

˗ˋˏ So2 characters ˎˊ-

Dahlia Hawthorne - EF(N) so258sp EIE VELF

Monika - EF(N) so217sx EIE VELF

Gabriel - EF(N) so287 EIE VELF

Makima - EF(N) so215sx EIE VELF

Sayaka Maizono - EF(N) so269sx EIE VEFL

Winter King - EF(N) so271sp EIE VELF

Angie Yonaga - EF(N) so279sp EIE VELF

Lila Rossie - EF(N) so287sx EIE VELF

˗ˋˏ Sx2 characters ˎˊ-

Amane Misa - ES(F) sx279sp SEE EFVL

Misato Katsuragi - ES(F) sx278so SEE FEVL

Miu Iruma - ES(F) sx268sp SEE FEVL

Yuno Gasai - EF(S) sx286sp ESE FEVL

Bibi Redden - ES(F) sx287sp SEE FEVL

Asuka Langley Soryu - ES(F) sx286sp SEE EFVL

Envy Adams - ES(F) sx278sp SEE FEVL

Maria - ES(F) sx269sp SEE EFVL

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“You must first have a lot of patience to learn to have patience.” — Stanislaw Jerzy Lec

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So the internet just decided to throw me in front of a buss today.

Friday Night Lights: Tami Taylor [ESFJ 2w1]

MBTI Type: ESFJ

Tami builds most of her life around how her actions will affect others—she really has no interest in attending local events, bringing tons of rice crispy treats, hosting things, etc., but she knows that’s her “job” because her husband is the coach, so she goes along with it. She’s very warm and likable, able to “roast” her husband in a way that doesn’t cast him in a bad light or…

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Does anyone here care about Enneagram types? I think Katniss is a 2w1 and Peeta is a 9w1. I personally will die on this hill but would love to hear other interpretations!

Here is a blurb from an enneagram website that feels to me what Katniss (Two) is drawn to in Peeta (Nine).

• Twos and Nines are extremely caring and considerate and tend to get along exceptionally well. Twos are attracted to the gentleness, the unassuming steadiness and peaceful, easy-going nature of Nines. Twos find the calm and unquestioning acceptance of Nines soothing and nurturing.

• Twos and Nines can be deeply affected by each other at a nonverbal level and, when in sync, can seem to have an almost psychic link with each other. Home, family, friends, pets, children and being out in nature are all especially important to Twos and Nines and those common values help solidify their bond.

Enneagram Type 2

An overview of an enneagram type. Not an expert. May change later.

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Center type: Heart/Image/Shame

Other triads: Positivity, Compliant, Rejection

Basic motivation: To be loved

Basic fear: Being unworthy of love

Wings: 2w1, 2w3

Disintegration/Stress: 8

Integration/Growth: 4

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Traits

- Strengths -

• Kind and caring
• Compassionate
• Gives a lot of love
• Helpful, encouraging
• Thoughtful

- Weaknesses -

• People pleasing
• Can repress own needs to prioritize others
• Can be forceful, overbearing (e.g pushing someone to do something bc the 2 core thinks that’s best for them, even if tje person doesn’t want to)
• Intrusive
• Can be manipulative

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Wings

- 2w1 -

Can make the 2 core more assertive and responsible. Stricter on themselves. Want to be of service, does not need recognition for the things they do. 1 wings makes 2 core values morals a lot so a 2w1 can worry about doing bad things to others.

- 2w3 -

As 3s want recognition, 2w3s will work hard for recognition and praise. Can be more social and open, longs for approval from others. Wants to be seen as appealing and attractive to others. Wants to be successful career and relationships wise.

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Disintegration: 8

Disintegration to 8 makes a 2 defensive and upset. They may feel rejected and hurt by others. They are deluded with the lie that they’re not the problem - they’re doing good and the best for everyone and blame others for their hurt feelings (even though it’s likely their own fault). Can be more repressive

Integration: 4

Integration to 4 allows 2 to become more compassionate and accepting of themselves. They learn it’s ok to prioritize themselves instead of fearing looking selfish. They become comfortable with all parts of themselves, all the good and ugly and understand they’re still lovable even though they’re not perfect.

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Subtypes of 2

- Sp 2 -

Playful and charming, can have a childish energy to them. Wants to be close to others but they can also be quite guarded. They’re “cute” in a way, can make others feel protective of them. They want to be cared for yet they do not want to be dependent on others.

- Sx 2 -

Uses their talents and skills to be attractive to others and to build strong, meaningful relationships. Once they trust deeply, they become more open and assertive about their own needs. Very passionate subtype.

- So 2 -

The most caretaking 2; responsible and ambitious. Image means a lot to them. Wants to be around the right company. Wants to stand out in a group so they often opt for leadership or some other major role. Strives to be successful and influential.

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An introduction to enneagram type 2

Lark Rise to Candleford: Margaret Brown [ISFJ 2w1]

MBTI Type: ISFJ

Margaret is a sweet and compassionate woman, but very stuck in her ways and apprehensive about anything that is unusual or unlike her father had it. She is traditional in her thinking, because she knows what she values in life—the idea of being a wife and mother, of being useful and supportive in that way. She has a deep fondness for scripture, her home at the parish, and their…

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The Crown: Peter Townsend [ISFJ 2w1]

MBTI Type: ISFJ

Peter is a mild-mannered man who knows that they must abide within the rules of society to succeed, and so he allows the crown to separate him from Margaret for several years, even though they love each other and want to get married. He has served the family faithfully for a long time and trusts them to do what is right, but ultimately realizes that the classism divide between…

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still severely struggling to see any 3 in Taylor Swift. I know someone who thinks Taylor Swift is a 2w1 and honestly I see it. I’m not even sold on her being 2w3, I mean it’s possible but I see literally no 3 in her beyond her ambition to be famous and recognized, which is a thing for every image type especially soc image types.

I think she’s a soc2, not settled on wing or second instinct.

It occurred to me today that soc2s would heavily relate to the 3’s focus on becoming famous and getting everybody in the world’s attention, recognition and admiration. probably a lot of soc2s are mistyped as 3s. Taylor Swift is definitely an image type but there’s a few plot holes in the 3 typing… she doesn’t brag. ever. 3s brag. that’s like their thing. Taylor Swift is more about being the world’s cherished good girl, she’s the fairy godmother professional advice giver, and oh I forgot to mention, she doesn’t brag about her success. and for the first ~10 years of her career her songs were so stereotypical cheesy 2, every song she’s either joyously in love or whining about how she did nothing but be good and love him while he acted like a cruel narcissist and broke her heart. Never have I seen a 3, even a superego fixed 3, focus this shamelessly on their feelings about boys in their music, and position themselves as an innocent good girl with zero bragging about their competency. the only thing Taylor Swift “brags” about is her innocence and goodness. I don’t get the 3 typing. at all.

—A gaze into deep waters

All the content used for this post is not mine, there is mostly collected from sites which talk about this interesting topic!

The Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. The Enneagram describes nine personality types and maps each of these types on a nine-pointed diagram which helps to illustrate how the types relate to one another.

According to the Enneagram, each of the nine personality types is defined by a particular core belief about how the world works. This core belief drives your deepest motivations and fears — and fundamentally shapes a person’s worldview and the perspective through which they see the world and the people around them.
Our core beliefs are not necessarily incorrect, but they can be limiting and operate as “blinders” for people. Understanding our Enneagram type and how it colors our perceptions can help us to broaden our perspective and approach situations more effectively.
Understanding a person’s Enneagram type helps us to see why they behave the way they do. Each Enneagram type has a set of core beliefs that will consistently motivate them to take particular actions and guide them to make certain decisions. Behavior that may seem confusing or contradictory can often be explained when we understand a person’s Enneagram type.
The Enneagram also helps us understand how people react to stress. By describing how each Enneatype adapts and responds to both stressful and supportive situations, the Enneagram shows opportunities for personal development and provides a foundation for the understanding of others.

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2w1: The Companion.

⊰☘⊱ Overview

Enneagram type twos with a one wing primarily identify as type twos, but also share characteristics of type ones. They tend to be altruistic and purposeful in their behavior. They have the will to alleviate human suffering and are generally more quiet and reserved than other twos.

2w1 are loving, considerate, and caring beings, often going out of their way to contribute to the well-being of those around them. They have a natural ability to perceive the needs of others. They like to engage in actions where they can use their natural goodness. They are also very flattering and often know just what to say or do to make others feel admired. They have innate relationship skills and place great importance on interpersonal relationships. They are generally friendly, attentive, sociable, and warm. They like to help others reach their full potential.

⊰☘⊱ Avoidance compulsion

The 2s try at all costs, and often unconsciously, to avoid recognizing their own needs. They are much more comfortable giving than receiving. They go to great lengths to avoid disappointing others and breaking out emotionally because of the feeling of being unloved. Focus and motivation the attention of the 2 is focused on the needs of others and on obtaining their approval. They give a lot, and in various ways (praise, affection, compliments, help of any kind) to obtain love. Both are motivated by commitment to others. They seek to meet the needs of others and are motivated when their contributions are recognized. They seek inwardly to feel appreciated and important to others. They need to feel approved and recognized. They like to have a special place in their relationships.

⊰☘⊱ Vice and defense mechanism

When under the influence of their compulsion (to avoid acknowledging their own needs), both are pushed by their ego (pride, in a particular form) to neglect and repress their own needs in order to prioritize the satisfaction of others. They believe they have unlimited resources to fill others without needing to recharge themselves. In harmony at their best, when managing their compulsion, both are in tune with themselves and are empathetic, involved, altruistic, warm, enthusiastic, compassionate, caring, and generous. They give sincerely and humbly without expecting any kind of return and contribute to the well-being of the people around them. They are comfortable when they are satisfied with their relationships, feel loved, valued, and when their desires and passions come true.

They then tend toward their type of integration (type 4), and the latter’s positive traits add to their behavior. Thus they learn to accept themselves more fully without rejecting their needs, to be more authentic and creative. In imbalance under the influence of their compulsion, the 2 may have low self-esteem, not know how to say “no”, be highly dependent on others and be too “demanding”. Internally, they have a great lack of recognition or affection and may begin to compulsively give advice or do favors not necessarily requested.

Others may then perceive them as bossy, overly expressive, or manipulative.

If the situation does not improve, they tend to their type of disintegration (type 8) and the negative traits of the latter are added to their behavior. Thus, they can become angry, aggressive, offensive, threatening, vindictive, accusatory and rebellious.

At the neighboring types of the 2 are types 1 and 3. The neighboring type that seems to have the greatest influence on the base type is called the “wing” of the type. The 2w1s are more discreet, idealistic and moral, but they can also be more critical. The 2w3s are more outgoing, ambitious, and self-assured, but they can also be more competitive.

⊰☘⊱ Childhood wounds

2w1 shares wounds with Enneatype 1 and 2, but mostly 2.

As children, Twos felt ambivalent towards the protective figure in their homes. In some way, they felt that there was a lack of either nurturance, guidance, or structure coming from the protective figure. To deal with this, Twos created an identity that they felt would be complementary to the protective figure. They developed the underlying feeling that the only way they could earn love was through selflessness, goodness, and repression of their own needs. The Two learned not to ask for help, not to assert their own needs, and to give to others more than they gave to themselves. In their quest for worth, they often learned to stifle and repress their own desires. Their self-love became conditional upon their earning a sense of worth through taking care of others.

Twos want to feel needed by people. They want to feel liked and as if they belong. This gives them a sense of security. In a child, this could show up as The Two doing the household chores of younger siblings or taking on the responsibilities of the parents as a way to make their lives easier and also earn their family’s love and affection. Through being dutiful and nurturing, they feel they can finally earn the love that most children take for granted.

Twos become healthier and happier when they learn that they are loved for who they are, not just what they do. But it can be a long and arduous lesson for them to internalize because they are so fixated on earning love through self-sacrifice.

As children, Ones felt disconnected from the protective figure in their life. This could have been the mother or the father, depending on the nature of their home. Sometimes this means that the parent they thought should be strong and protective was abusive. It could also mean that parent was distracted, arbitrary, overly strict, or overly lenient. Sometimes, in especially religious households, the child felt that the God, or father, of their religion was a fearful being they had to work hard to “please.”

To cope with this feeling of disconnection, Ones made themselves their own judges and critics. They developed their own code of ethics and list of rules – and this code was strict and to be followed to the letter. They developed a relentless feeling of never being acceptable; a feeling that they must always try to be better. In fact, their own feelings and desires were nearly always put on the backburner in favor of toeing the line, being responsible, and improving themselves. They tried to repress their emotions, especially anger. However, this emotion typically showed up in judgmental, critical behavior. It may have appeared as the One clenching his teeth while he washed the dishes, or rigidly memorizing the ten commandments as thoughts of hellfire and doom raced through his mind.

The One “self-policed” as a child, feeling that if they punished themselves no one else would punish them or see them as a failure. They wanted to outdo the expectations of the protective figure who had in some way failed them.

⊰☘⊱ Signs that you’re a 2w1 Enneatype:

(Several of these will also apply to 2w3, but 2w3s are less likely to relate to all of them)

• You have a strong desire to relieve human suffering
• You don’t mind taking on thankless or tedious tasks if it will help others
• You strive at being practical and reasonable
• You care about the disenfranchised or persecuted
• You often think about whether or not you are a “good” or “bad” person
• You fight against your “selfish” feelings
• You crave affirmation but feel uncomfortable when actually given praise
• You want attention at times, but you feel uncomfortable drawing attention to yourself
• You want to be significant in people’s lives
• You are self-critical and often feel guilty for taking time for yourself
• You worry that others will stop being close to you if you stop being so generous and supportive
• You feel happy when you know you are making a positive impact on someone’s life
• When you’re stressed you can be very judgmental
• You consider yourself a “healer” of the hurting
• You struggle to prioritize your own needs
• You enjoy encouraging others
• You struggle to take credit for the things you have done well

⊰☘⊱ Weakness

Weaknesses that are typically associated with the Enneagram 2w1 personality include:

• Being highly self-critical or insecure in trying times
• Seeking praise from others
• Ignoring and sacrificing their own personal needs
• Difficulty facing criticism from other people
• Solving problems and accomplishing goals
• Personal time to recharge
• Feeling needed and accepted
• Volunteering and serving others

⊰☘⊱ Stress

Enneagram 2w1s tend to be stressed and drained by:

• Harsh criticism from others
• Ignoring their own personal needs
• Feeling unhelpful and unwanted
• Self-induced guilt and shame

⊰☘⊱ Jobs

Type twos with one wings love being able to help contribute to a cause. They tend to be dedicated and selfless people, who love getting hands-on when helping others. They thrive in environments that encourage them to help others, while allowing personal space to recoup and reenergize. Their common jobs would be:

• Non-Profit Leader
• Counselor
• Hospice Nurse
• Veterinarian
• School Psychologist
• Humanitarian
• Religious Leader
• Advisor

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This is honestly a deep sight inside Cassandra’s heart. When I ended up the test I was honestly very surprised because… it hit the nail on the head!

If you have ever interacted with her you really felt her as a person as bright as capable to do anything for those whom she care of! Still and for granted, she has troubles taking care of herself but at the same is curious how her stressful life dragged her to be more in her disintegration, which shows a little bit more her rebellious and selfish side, and somehow her demanding for retribution after all she has done. There are a lot of little hints here for how she behaves and how she would like to be seen, which is important in her self-conscious image.

Although there is something mentioned here which catches a lot my attention and it’s something pretty sad to say but it’s truth: Cassandra during her life rejects a lot the only decision she made for herself (which was accept the deal with KarlHeinz) and at the same time she internally thought she deserves the fate she craved for.

Another curious thing about her pride and self-esteem is that Cassandra is actually a person taught to show herself confident of her own expressions and feelings. She doubts about them sometimes though, showing herself a little bit more judgemental. There is a different between what you can perceive outside and inside. Outside you can see a well taught and build woman, capable to do anything all by herself and for anyone, who has not only the power but the strength to battle against any problem and to protect not only herself but anyone she takes under her care. But inside there are all these needs the post mentioned before, if they seem “out of place” in some of them, it could be because she actually became good hiding all the pain inside her, like a mechanism to ignore her own needs and not let the pain dominate her. She creates this mechanism of ‘ignoring’ or seem a little bit 'absent’, it is a shield all over herself to protect her for what causes her stress.

What makes me conclude here, than Cassandra could be that one who lends a hand to someone in need, but she craves in her situation for someone to hug her, to someone who give the same comfort she gives with all her heart.

Beauty and the Beast: Belle [INFP 2w1]

2s are not the archetype of the mother, they’re an iron fist in an iron glove. Also create dependencies in order to maintain control. 2s feel you should thank them since they’re a star who shines down upon you from the skies. Nevermind that it’s the middle of the day and nobody asked them to shine in the first place. 

One thing I hate about 2 fix and wish I could steal from 4 fix is how much of a struggle raw self expression is. Even with 8 core unhingedness there is such a like obvious fakeness and refinement when I try to express emotion. I see 4s and 4 fixes expressing themselves in such a realer way. I wish I could do that. No matter how loud I scream people are always gonna see the vanity and pride shine thru which is like a shield against raw emotional expression.

The problem with 2 is that it doesn’t wanna come down from the pride pedestal and face all the shame that is involved in this. Coming down from the pride pedestal and being honest with oneself about the shame is what 2 -> 4 integration is. 2s don’t have the guts to do it. That’s why the Sufis called 2 Cowardice (Underdeveloped Courage) and 4 Rashness (Overdeveloped Courage)

My friend described 2s like “it’s like her feelings are expressed in a drama play” and at first I was like nooo not true at all but as I think more I’m starting to see it is true. If nothing else a 2 is always hiding her true feelings behind a pride facade that she feels in control of even when she is expressing them. Even when 2s are screaming metal goddesses (lol thinking of Maria Brink) they’re still caked in makeup and costumes to try and maintain their place on the throne, still controlling their image on the pride pedestal, and masking the rawness of their real self. That’s paradoxical because you can’t be raw emotionally expressive and maintain the pride pedestal at the same time.

The Baby-Sitter’s Club: Mallory Pike [ENFP 2w1]

MBTI Type: ENFP

Mallory is highly outgoing, but also doesn’t really know how to connect to anyone, pay attention to her environment, or babysit kids when she first starts off. Instead, she lights up about her passions, like talking about the many stories she has written about horses (sea horses, western horses, etc) and goes on and on at length about them. She is very random, jumping between…

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