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hi guys, how’s everybody? i hope you are taking care of yourself. sending hugs with consent. ily! please stay safe.
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When Venus Aphrodite arrived in her shell chariot drawn by pigeons, she met her son Eros as he rushed down to the earth: “Mother,” he said in a reproachful and almost bitter tone; and yet there was at the same time a note of gentle pleading in his sweet voice; “Mother, if you persist in your objection to my marrying Psyche, I am determined to leave high Olympus, to renounce my divinity, and to retire to the place to which your will may banish her. Tartaros in her company is a more welcome abode than Heaven without her.” Aphrodite followed him with her eyes as he descended. She shook her head and said to herself : “The boy is no longer himself; I fear me, I must yield, or there will be some great calamity.”
- Eros and Psyche: A Fairy-Tale of Ancient Greece, Retold After Apuleius by Paul Carus
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German Porcelain Plaque of Psyche (also known as A Nymph by the Sea, Psyche am Wasserspiegel, Psyche at the Water’s Mirror, and Psyche Mourning) (c. 1900) by possibly Hutschenreuther, or Franz Xavier Thallmaier, after the original by Wilhelm Kray (German, 1828 – 1889)
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“If I weren’t a good Christian I’d be a terrible person”
-Brainwashed and incapable of individual thought
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something i’ve been trying to work on is getting away from anything and anyone so focused on being angry, and realizing that even holding onto thoughts to vent them later can result in storing those things in long-term memory which ingrains the frustration into your mind.
this isn’t meant to be an invalidation of anger, just saying it’s much easier to be driven into spirals when you only focus on events centered around the anger. even when the outcome of some stories is “positive,” they are often focused on a conflict with someone who one finds irritating or negatively impactful on those around them.
it’s why i’ve personally been trying so hard to just disregard all these individuals with their horrible, hateful opinions and delusions. the more you grant them toehold over that portion of your brain, the more you feel the need to vent about the absurdity.. the more volatile you become.
there’s a balance, though, in that you need to accept that negativity will come your way and that you need to be able to decipher what’s worth hurting over.
it’s the same part of the brain that stores all of your primal grunts of pain and reflexes to blurt swear words more often when you’re mad. it’s the same part that, no matter if you would never say them, you might hear or read a slur and then have it stuck in that portion of your mind, plaguing your thoughts for days. it’s such a reflexive aspect of the human psyche that it basically requires one’s ability to seek temperance of their own volition to properly quell it.
it’s.. the rage-room fallacy of thinking that simply “getting it out” is what helps you, but it actually results in those same people becoming more prone to destructive behavior, because it’s not redirecting the anger toward something that will actually, eventually get your mind off of being angry; it merely satiates and reinforces the urge to destroy.
this could be taken as a long-winded way of saying “do something creative/methodical,” but i’m one to believe that the nuance of how one explains something, or their experience with it, matters a lot
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Leiden Narzissten unter Kontaktabbruch?
Leiden Narzissten unter Kontaktabbruch? Ja, aber anders als erwartet. Ihr Schmerz entsteht meist aus Kontrollverlust und Kränkung, nicht aus echtem Trennungsschmerz. Was das für Betroffene bedeutet, erklärt dieser Beitrag.
Wer sich von einem Menschen mit narzisstischen Zügen trennt oder den Kontakt vollständig abbricht, steht oft vor einer verwirrenden Reaktion: Die Person, die im Alltag kalt und distanziert wirkte, meldet sich plötzlich wieder, schreibt Nachrichten, schickt Vermittler vor oder reagiert mit unverhältnismäßiger Wut. Für viele Betroffene stellt sich dann die Frage, ob hinter all dem echter Schmerz steckt oder ob andere Motive die Reaktion antreiben.
Die Antwort darauf ist vielschichtig. Menschen mit einer narzisstischen Persönlichkeitsstörung oder ausgeprägten narzisstischen Zügen erleben beim Kontaktabbruch tatsächlich eine Form von Leid. Dieses Leid unterscheidet sich jedoch grundlegend von dem, was die meisten Menschen als Trennungsschmerz kennen. Es ist weniger ein Vermissen des Menschen selbst als ein Verlust von Kontrolle, Bestätigung und dem, was Fachleute als narzisstische Zufuhr bezeichnen.
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“Psyche’s Vigil”
Waiting
She watches
Psyche waits
And wonders
Has Eros fled
Forever?
When will his
Wound be healed?
Psyche waits
Beside the waters
As the mist
Rises In a silver sheen
Where rippling waves
Meet sky
In a thousand shades
Of blue
Surely one shade
Is the color
Of his eyes?
Like the wind
He came and went
With lion’s ardor
Awakening Psyche
To love.
Then forsaken is she
By the wounded
Son of Venus.
Psyche waits
On the brink
Her labors
Many
Her toil
Long. His voice
She cannot
Forget.
Hope gleams
In the mist
Amid blinding
Sparkles
On the bay.
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6: Psyche-Eros Opposition: Oscar Wilde and Lord Alfred Douglas
The story of Wilde’s doomed affair with Lord Alfred Douglas scandalised London in the mid- 1890s has now become the stuff of legend. For Wilde especially it was like the fall of Icarus in its mythic archetypal message: how a public figure can fall from grace in such a way. It would be great to run through the entire story here, but the focus is on Eros and Psyche- what part did they play in this relationship?
One of the finest portrayals of Wilde in film was Peter Finch (1960) but probably Jude Law (1997) made the definitive Lord Alfred Douglas. He captured what the fuss might have been about for Wilde to have become so utterly besotted and how Douglas was both attractive and malicious at the same time. Reviews mentioned his ‘rock star’ presence.
It was an intense but ultimately doomed as well as reputation-wrecking love affair that had everybody talking. However badly behaved Douglas was, he was still able to inspire Wilde to the heights of adulation and love blindness. It was life-altering for both of them but especially for Wilde who suffered enormously. That lead to his being scapegoated in the full public trial and his incarceration for two years. Wilde paid the ultimate price at the loss of his career as a great man of letters. He was released from prison in 1987 and a year later when Eros was discovered ‘The Ballad of Reading Gaol’ was published. This poem contained the solemn lines ‘each man kills the thing he loves’ which adds a very Eros/Psyche flavour. He was talking about actual murder but he meant metaphorical murder or just through projection on to the other. By the time he wrote this, he had gleaned some inner wisdom from the trainwreck love affair.
Firstly, Wilde’s chart is the obvious writer of bon mots as Mercury rules both his Ascendant and his MC. With Mercury well placed to be sharp as a razor in the 3rd House. His famous epigrams were loaded with insights of a subversive kind, yet almost symmetrical thinking. With Mercury in Scorpio, these epigrams were also barbed with a kickback meaning which often turned things on their head. The Moon in Leo meant he wanted to be centre of attention and in that he was more than usually successful.
Their Venus-Venus-Mercury connection in Libra indicates it was mostly about florid love letters and seduction through words. They were both Librans but Lord Alfred’s Sun was at 29° of the sign. This could spell the culmination of the Love-turns-to-War effect with a sprinkling of the imp of the perverse. In this case it was seen as not fair, yet also inevitable, something that Wilde accepted as his fate. Douglas was both his lover and his nemesis. Douglas’ Vertex was exactly conjunct Wilde’s Mercury in Scorpio and Douglas’ Pluto conjuncts Wilde’s North Node.
Wilde’s Eros was at 14° Aquarius which loves to defy social conventions and his Psyche was at 27° Capricorn. Douglas’s Eros was a 2° of Aries, much more impetuous and short lived, conjunct Chiron at 4° the wound of identity- and his Psyche was at 8° of Gemini. So there’s a lot of Fire and Air easily whipped up into a flurry of fights and recriminations.
While not a direct opposition of Eros and Psyche, indicators of Venus and Mars outline the oppositional energy in love relations. Wilde’s Mars at 3° of Sagittarius was opposite Douglas’ Psyche at 8° of Gemini. Wilde’s Venus at 7° of Libra opposed Douglas’ Eros at 2° of Aries- the old tug of war between self and other on full show there.
And yet Wilde’s Venus in Libra was also trine to Douglas’ Psyche from Air to Air. Where it hit his reputation was that Douglas’ Psyche was conjunct Wilde’s MC/Saturn 10-15° of Gemini. Adding a layer of unpredictability is that Wilde’s Psyche in Capricorn is opposed to Douglas’ Uranus in Cancer.
The composite chart formed of midpoints puts Eros at 8° in Pisces where this month Mercury conjuncts conjunct the North Node. Their ‘joint’ Psyche conjuncts Neptune at 1°of Aries which has another echo in this era of the Saturn-Neptune conjunction moving from zero to one degree. Wilde was born in 1854 with Neptune in Pisces. But by the time Douglas was born in it had moved into Aries.
© Kieron Devlin, Proteus Astrology, February 28th, 2026
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Warum hassen Borderliner einen plötzlich? Ursachen, Dynamik und Umgang in Beziehung und Alltag
Warum hassen Borderliner einen plötzlich? Häufig wirkt es wie ein abrupter Bruch. Hinter dem Umschlag stehen oft Stress, Angst und ein Schutzmechanismus, nicht ein „echter“ Hass.
Wer so eine Wendung erlebt, beschreibt meist dieselbe Szene. Gestern war noch Nähe da, heute kommt Kälte, Wut oder Verachtung. Nachrichten werden hart, Vorwürfe wirken pauschal, frühere Zuneigung zählt scheinbar nicht mehr. Für Außenstehende fühlt sich das wie gezielte Grausamkeit an. Viele fragen sich, ob sie manipuliert wurden oder ob alles vorher nur gespielt war.
Bei einer Borderline Persönlichkeitsstörung sind Beziehungen oft von starker Anspannung geprägt. Gefühle können sehr intensiv sein und kippen schneller, als es andere Menschen erwarten. Das betrifft nicht nur Partnerschaften. Es kann Freundschaften, Familie und auch Arbeitskontexte treffen.
Wichtig ist eine klare Unterscheidung. Nicht jede abrupte Abwertung bedeutet Borderline. Und nicht jedes verletzende Verhalten lässt sich mit einer Diagnose erklären. Der Blick auf typische Mechanismen hilft trotzdem, das Erlebte einzuordnen und handlungsfähig zu bleiben.
