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Had a little scare at work the other day where a guy who’d creeped on one of my coworkers before came in and her first reaction was to come to me to keep her safe. Granted we’re a little closer than coworkers but not quite friends and she’s a lesbian so there’s community there but it meant so much to me in that moment that out of everyone in that building she could’ve gone to she came to me first. Genuinely so honored she felt like she could trust me with that and I did everything possible to keep her safe in that moment cause I know firsthand how scary that shit is so to be able to keep her calm and safe meant so much to me. Idk man. It’s shit like this that makes the Male Privilege so blatantly obvious and how important it is as a trans guy to use that privilege to keep women safe y'know. I’m just glad I was there I don’t think any of our other coworkers would’ve done anything to keep her comfortable they all kinda suck

Perhaps my genuine biggest piece of socializing advice as someone who spent years of my life feeling wholly incapable of positively interacting with other people is to just ask the other person questions about themselves. Like that’s it. People love answering questions. They really love thoughtful follow-up questions. They love feeling like someone else is interested in them, their interests, their lives, their opinions. At some point in your questioning they will say something that reminds you of a funny / interesting story. Tell it. You will be remembered as the person who asks a lot of questions, makes people feel like they matter, and tells good stories. boom. done.

i might have already talked about this before but it’s actually crazy that jogging gets treated as a default ‘getting into shape for the first time’ exercise ESPECIALLY if someone’s goal involves weight loss. people who are more than ~200lbs often need special gear and running techniques to avoid shin splints etc *even if all that weight is solid muscle*, and the likelihood of injury only goes up as strength to weight ratio decreases. someone who’s both heavy AND untrained is just going to be miserable for however long it takes their bones and connective tissue to adapt to the sudden increase in demand. usually this takes months, but it can take even longer under adverse conditions like, say, suddenly eating way less than normal. and all this for an activity that literally isn’t even fun unless you are a specific type of insane. there are so many low impact and actually enjoyable forms of cardio why are we slapshotting biomechanically disadvantaged novices into the david goggins torment dimension

obsessed w all the people in the notes saying some form of ‘i love running! don’t do it 👍’

I agree with this hard! As someone who is not considered overweight, 130-140 lb, depending on time of year, running is misery and painful. It’s absolutely wild how that’s the exercise people are like, you should just take up!

Much rather go for a nice walk, do some squats, jumping, and body weight exercises.

So, movement nudge! Pick one or a few of the above mentioned things and go do them! Anything is better than nothing!

Eternally gonna promote Darebee;

From their how to pick a program webpage

“If you’re new to fitness, recovering from an injury, or just starting with bodyweight training, we recommend beginning with the Foundation or The Foundation Light programs. They may look simple, but they’re designed to ease you into your fitness journey—start slow, build gradually, and watch yourself transform over time. Long-term results are the ones that last.”

(Links added go to the programs/pages they mention, emphasis/bold by me)

They are a 100% free fitness resource (with no adds or affiliates/sponsorships) that uses no equipment in order to be as accessible as possible

They are funded entirely by donations & hold non-profit status. If you have $1 to spare I would highly reccomended them as they have been in a critical funding shortage for a few months in a row now & as they’re 100% donation run they will be forced to shut down if it continues on for much longer

I personally started the Foundation program & while I’ve missed days/weeks due to being sick & also have made only very small changes to my diet, I started this year at 233 lbs and am now at 210 lbs.

My goal isn’t necessarily weight loss, I just live a fairly sedentary life & want to hurt less, weight loss has just been a nice bonus. I personally felt the best at 175-180 in the past.

Im sure that their approach isn’t for everyone, but it is the perfect level of guidance that I needed to feel confident in doing exercise again. They also have a video library where you can look up any exercise from their programs & it will show you more in depth how to do it properly. It’s genuinely been a great resource for me

I’m so fun once you really get to know me but unfortunately that takes 2-3 years of fighting through layer after layer of abstraction before I actually feel comfortable showing you my true and authentic self

to be loved is to be seen

Watching hlvrai again as a completely changed and different man than the one I was 6 years ago is crazy. This series started such an absolutely insane spiral of events in my life it feels bizarre engaging with it again all this time later

I will not lie this testosterone got me acting afool

I think almost anything can move me to tears if my heart is open. Like it’s actually insane what can make me cry

Bro is in his car straight up eating strawberries

can someone explain what he’s talking about i got distracted by his giant jiggling honkers badonkers

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do me a favor and plz reblog with your five most recently used non-face, non-hand, non-heart emojis

For example my birthday is June 24th so my Golden Birthday was when I turned 24.

Madison made direct eye contact with me and smiled really wide and waved when she realized it was me. Going to throw up

Im autistic and I love spice and tacos and rap music i think you’re just a pussy

For the second time this month I am at a senses concert. Life is good

many people would be happier and feel less broken if we de-centered romantic relationships but idk if queer people are ready for this discussion. simply because if you are traumatized and soft conversion therapy’d out of expressing romantic desire, the idea that romance is not important is traumatic. and then there’s the pervasive family of origin trauma. if your partner fulfills the ache of unconditional love that you never felt growing up, you understandably will want to prioritize that relationship. plus there’s the pervasive sexual shame.

which means that people who are aro and ace kind of have to navigate a soup of other people’s trauma that we trigger by existing, and definitely trigger by taking up space and CERTAINLY trigger by offering observations like this one.

this post has apparently resonated with a lot of people. i have been checking the comments & tags and a lot of people have shared this experience with me. i’m so glad you saw something of your life reflected here.

so, i just want to say, i think the blame here lies squarely on the shoulders of cishetero amatonormativity. end of the day, we are all being crushed by forces that say “you should be this way, or no way at all”, and then actively erect barriers to other ways of life.

for the people that react with anxiety or dismissal toward other-other ways of being, i ask you,with love, for self reflection.

if you have been less than your best and most generous self toward ace and aro people in the past because of very real trauma, you can be different going forward. i highly encourage you to simply read the tags of this post and listen to what other people have said. sit with it. and then ask what you could do differently next time.

if you are ace and aro and have shared here, thank you. it means a lot to me, and i am sure it means a lot to others as well.

life is so hard when you love being competent and knowledgeable and helpful but you also love slacking off

before i go to bed because im ill again i just briefly want to say that white people’s adoration and frankly over the top love of (certain) animals taking precedence over their care about people of color is disturbing and needs to be dealt with. saw an insta reel today of a girl who adopted a cat whose owners were abducted by ICE and the comments were just filled with “omg the poor cat!” “i feel so bad for the cat!” “omg it probably thinks it was abandoned!!!” “omg the cat!!” okay and what about the owners. what about the people who owned that cat and loved it and will probably never see it again. the owners that like no one knows the names of? the owners? like the people that owned the cat that got kidnapped so suddenly their cat was just left? what about the people. the owners. like remember them? people who are living their worst nightmare?

or the way yt people will prioritize animals in gaza over the humans that live there. or the way yt people will prioritize animals over like real human laborers farming in unsafe and deadly conditions for their agave or whatever vegan trend of the month. or the way yt ppl will tout ecofascist talking points in favor of animals and against human beings. or the way yt people try and push universal veganism instead of food sovereignty and dismiss the culinary traditions of indigenous groups. and and and

Hi everyone ily

pls help me out of this hole! i was recently taken away to live in a small cult, put in debt by them (not the debt listed here) & usually most of my day is decided by them. now i have to be even more careful what i make public abt everything too. so having the stress of these bills covered would help while i deal with this.

Weekly Rent | $0/$374.47 | 3/12

Cshpp Borrow | $62.04/$393.19 | 3/13

Cshpp Borrow | $0/$269.85 | 3/27

[borrow was for previous rent(s). MUST pay.]

(this post will be updated when needed!)

ca vn kofi bmac | gfm | throne

dm for pypal / revolut / others.

this has stalled massively. if i dont pay back cshapp borrow & pay rent ill be in a Lot if trouble. please help. the borrow was literally for rent, anyway.

Grappling with the fact that I’ve deluded myself into thinking that someone who is reserved and shy would be a good match for me and now I feel so incredibly guilty that I’ve spent so long talking to this guy and I think we could only be friends 🥲 I don’t think we would be a good match romantically because he is. Too nice and very shy. And I am way too brash and intense and need someone who can match that energy which unfortunately I just don’t think is this guy… But I do like him as a friend he seems like a very genuinely good person who I would like to have in my life just not. like that

Do you say good bye out loud to your pets every time before you leave the house ?

If you don’t have pets don’t vote if your pets don’t have ears don’t vote

Answer me

Realized I haven’t changed my blog in literal years at this point and my age and all my personal info was out of date so. Mobile + desktop theme update go check em out if you’d like smile

idk who needs to hear this, but your partner should be making your life better and easier than it is on your own. if your partner is making your life harder, they’re constantly stressing you out, if they’re not showing up for you? babe you gotta leave, life is so short and we only get one, so don’t spend it with someone who makes you feel bad about your life, you deserve so much better than that

Realized I haven’t changed my blog in literal years at this point and my age and all my personal info was out of date so. Mobile + desktop theme update go check em out if you’d like smile